The combined force of well-meaning but misguided laws, judicial traditions, and government policies drive many loving fathers out of their children's lives. For instance, the former head of the Brooklyn Family Courts said, "You have never seen a bigger pain in the ass than the father who wants to get involved...This type of involved father is pathological." Such judges are creating a river of wounded children and fathers. Most fatherhood organizations understandably have responded with commiseration, fellowship, and counseling.

Fathers & Families has chosen a different course. Our primary goal is to change society's institutions that create so many casualties in the first place. We are an advocacy organization, an organization that fights to change an unjust system. We also minister to the needs of individual fathers and grandparents to the extent possible, but this is a secondary activity.